Find a deeper meaning to life in 4 simple steps.

We are all searching for some meaning and purpose in our lives. I am part of this search and I understand that many will find what I'm laying out hard to relate to others may find it inspirational.

My technique of seeing the deeper meaning to the purpose of life is simple and easy to follow.

It takes some practice but if you are a  searching soul and have some time for yourself, here it is what you can do:

1. Remind yourself that life flows through time and our experience of life is relatively short.

The way I see this clearer is rather basic. 

• I did not create or initiate life, including my own.
• My parents did not create or initiate life, even my own. If asked if they created the sperm and the egg in order to give me life they will not be able to respond positively.
• My grandparents also, like my parents, did not create life.

Having established that neither me nor my parents or grandparents created life gives us the space to look at it as an observer searching for answers from the very facts of existence.

2. Pause life.

• Imagine you could "pause" life and look at it as an observer sitting on a sofa or a beautiful hillside.

3. Rewind an fast forward your life "movie".

In the process you will gradually become aware of the "external" factors that influence your decisions.

4. Look for the "heart" of your motivation for making decisions.

Even though this sounds complicated, my experience shows that there are only two states in which our motivation works: unselfish or selfish.

The unselfish state of "heart" does not put myself as the main benefactor of Life but recognizes my dependence on other participants in Life and willingly chooses to contribute to "the greater good" that benefits "the whole".

The selfish state of heart considers myself the sole benefactor and chooses to inconsiderately sacrifice other participants in Life for my well being.

By other participants I mean the living, the dead and the elements of nature.

Selfishness or unselfishness are the forces behind every decisions that motivate our actions, therefore as we zoom in on our own being, then zoom out looking at the entirety of Life we can start to identify to what extend "my" existence confirms or denies the rules of Life itself.

Some may, at this point, ask what is the purpose this process?

Here is my short answer:

Life happens all around us. Its spans before and after our existence.

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Love a stone. How big can love be?

The purpose of life and its deeper meaning call us to ask a simple question:

How much love is enough?

Can I love my mother and father, brothers and sisters, friends, children... enough?

Love is very tricky to deal with because more can always be given.

To illustrate this I would like to share about a friend of mine.

I always thought stones were stones until I met him.

We had knows each other for a while and I was well aware of his fascination with geology /stones/ and fossils.

One day he invited me to a big geological exhibition. I accepted the invitation and though we will pass through the halls, buy some "stones" and leave. I was mistaken. He stopped and looked at every exhibit with incredible curiosity and admiration studying it for a long, long, long time.

To me everything we saw looked the same. All I needed was a glance to decide I have seen enough but out of respect for my friend I stayed and looked on wondering what is it that he sees in them.

The more I looked the more I realized that not only are all rocks and crystals looked different but the materials out of which they were made were all different as well.

I kept on looking and wondering how much is there to life that I do not pay attention to.

If I observe and study one person the way a scientist would a stone how much is there to discover?

A person is a universe of thoughts, feelings, dreams and, in general, presence.

So my mind naturally moved to the ones I love starting with the presence of my wife.

Do I know her well enough?

Do I love her enough?

Do I now my children, family members and friends well enough?

Do I study them as my friend would a stone?

At first I catch myself thinking I do... but if they were the prime object of my research would I think the same.

The answer quickly moved to a NO!

If I would research them there would be always more to discover, more to be inspired about and more reasons to be fascinated, like and love them.

Seeing their weaknesses and mistakes I would be in pain hoping they can be stronger, wiser and happier.

Seeing their strengths I would be proud, comforted and aware I can ask for help if needed.

Thinking this way I came to a simple conclusion.

One love partner is more than enough to explore and research in depth throughout life.

Our love changes as we move through our lives therefore the research is very exciting.

Love is one when we are just married and have all the time in the world for each other.

It is different when the first child is born and we give it our time and attention almost in panic until utterly exhausted day and night.

Our confidence is different when the next children come but as they grow there is less time and energy to spend for our spouse. Here many people conclude that love has diminished.

Strangely though it does not mean our love has become weaker. Instead it seems to have grown wider and deeper capable to love more with one heart.

Our ego is polished and shaped to become a member of a larger system that is chaotic and needs input of energy to keep it together. That is why the input of love from every member of the family is essential. A delicate balance between individual gravitational forces need to be established where everyone can be free enough yet bound by the force of love.

Who is the center of this gravitational pull?

The love of the parents is at the core. The love the mother and father share pulls the family together. The love of the grandparents keep the clan together.

Therefor in terms of marriage one partner for life is more than enough if we are on the quest of discovering true love in its entirety of scope and depth.

Could there be a deeper meaning to the purpose of life than this?

Is there a higher goal than to love and be loved?

Money seem to be our goal that gives us comfort but they seem to never be enough no matter how much we have.

Contrary to money when love is present we seem to lack nothing, and paradoxically, always find what to give even if we have nothing.

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The simple dream behind human progress.

Why does a baby make the parents happy?

Growing up I always thought that life can not just be a set of fixed rules that can not be altered, rules that ultimately drive most people into misery.

Back then it seemed that the "limited reality" elder people used to paint life with was their own invention. I strongly disagreed that I will one day conform to a limiting system of thought and believed anything was and will be possible.

A middle aged person who has observed life much longer through the spectacles of family, society, nation, race and religion, and who has visited many corners of the world I confirm that our "reality" is a choice or result of choices. Even if a certain set of choices has led us to a particular situation we are free to make different choices, as of this moment, that will drive us to a new destination.  

If I was born to Aborigine family life will present me with particular set of choices. If I was born a son to a wealthy billionaire family my life will present to me a set of seemingly very different choices.

The idea of choice can easily be interpreted as having freedom but some people in this world have very little to choose from available to them while others seem to have almost unlimited spectrum of choices, or so it seems. 

Interestingly on both extremes of this scale we find people satisfied and happy with their "reality" or unhappy with it therefore:

material prosperity does not to guarantee happiness

as well as poverty does not guarantee suffering. 

When are the "wealthy" happy and what makes the "poor" enjoy life?

The answer in both cases seems to be: when love is present. 

It is as if love is a special dimension of live in which the experience of "reality" is supercharged with delicate sensitivity to things we never saw or felt before. There a human being raises to a different level of nobility and humanity. 

I find it fascinating to observe what some may call polarized political aspirations of the left, center and right because looking for a deeper meaning we find that they all share the same dream. 

If we call the ideal world our hearts long for Utopian society, Kingdom of God, Tantra or True Democracy we all actually have the same goal in mind - a place where we will be free, equal and share our talents thoughts and ultimately hearts without a need to shield ourselves.

It may come as a surprise to many but this ideal form of society already exists on a smaller scale in loving families. 

After being born a baby finds itself in a state of absolute dependency on the mercy, kindness and love of the parents. If parents are in a state of confusion or distress they man choose to terminate this child's life irregardless of its wish to live. As a child grows unless parents provide food and shelter it will quickly die. Due to this total dependency we can conclude that a child is in a position to be loved unconditionally without it being able to return anything for the love, time and money spent and the energy invested in it. 

Today many loving husbands, after witnessing the investment their wife makes in raising their children, conclude that the economic model we live in is unfair in excluding a mother's value creating input from the spectrum social-economic activities that add up to our Gross Domestic Product.  

In the latter stage of our growth as and individual but also a brother/sister/friend we develop social skills within the family and in the wider society that help us leans to share as we discover that not everyone is as unconditional in giving as our parents. 

As we mature further we find our loved one and the desire to care for and love the fruit of this love naturally develops in the hearts and minds of this new parents completing life's cycle. 

Child born in such a loving family experiences True Democracy, The Kingdom of God and the Utopian socialist dream feeling satisfied it is capable of giving love, time and energy in a similar unconditional manner as they were received by it.

This process of development into a fruitful human being mimics the soothing embrace of nature that it unconditionally giving, forgiving and being there for us humans generation after generation hoping that one day we will also find our inner peace. 

A child born and raised lacking the embracing love of parents and their nurturing example of giving everything unconditionally grows with a deep longing and hunger that nothing except true love can resolve. 

Going deeper and deeper into the secrets of life observed daily we find meaning that is simple, clear and truly liberating.

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With Heart

A day is filled with our thoughts, words and deeds. 

Looking deeper at their meaning we see that there is a purpose beyond them from heir origin to the result they have on life. 

The thoughts I have, the words I speak and my actions come from a place deep within. Some call it subconsciousness others spirit but undoubtedly something invisible is pushing us from within to interact within our being and with things and beings that surround us. 

Fellow humans around the world have given this motivating force yet another name that corresponds to the physical organ that ceaselessly and unconditionally pumps life into our being - our heart. 

We do not know the deeper meaning behind our heart beat...

We do not even care how it happens and why until our heart, or this of a loved one, gets damaged or ceases to function.

This moment is the most dramatic and feared in life as it reminds us of the imminent death each of us will encounter. 

I became deeply intrigued by our shared impulse of heart and have tried to find ways to observe its manifestations. Year after year I slowly uncovered that everything we do is indeed motivated by our heart.

One can cook a meal with the heart to enjoy the process and give joy to those who will eat it, or we can process food. 

The topic of exchange of labor for money seems to exist somewhat parallel to the reality of our heart but has nothing to do with it and even contradicts basic human norms. 

As we grow we receive unconditionally from our parents. The more they have the more they naturally and unconditionally share with us - their children. Yet the reality beyond our family is in most cases exactly the opposite.

Step out from your doorstep and life becomes very conditional. 

Our parents do their best to prepare us for "the world out there" by becoming more conditional and some times even paying us for chores we perform. 

It is as if the world is an enemy to the unconditional reality within the family...

As we discover "our own place" in this conditional world we repeat the same process with our own children. We do so despite having not having made sense of why the world is this way. This is why when challenged by the young inquisitive minds surrounding us we simply say "You are too young to understand."

It is as if despite having our hearts shattered the hope that our children will somehow not have to suffer lives on. This is the reason why many find it hard to imagine having children. On one side we have to sacrifice our personal comfort and freedom and live for someone who's life depends entirely on our ability to love and give unconditionally again and again and as human beings are free we can not expect that our children will continuously accept, appreciate and understand our sacrifice. 

This reality of parenting is manifested and multiplied throughout the world despite our clan, society, nation, race or religion. It is an experience we all share as we all come from a mother and a father even if modern science had an input in the process.

It is very fascinating to observe our human societies - go from one nation to another and observe the expressions of the human heart. 

Within any random city or village there are people who work hard to learn and develop which results in them being considered of higher value to society. Then there are others who seem to have no ambition and are satisfied to have even the simplest of jobs. 

Why are people so different? 

Everyone has different potential. Our experience from childhood to maturity greatly influences our capacity to express our potential. As if our family and society are the soil in which we grow and its quality either gives us the right conditions or deprives us of nutrients. 

We seem to be as cells in a giant global organism and each of us is crafted to contribute in some valuable way. If we were to view our world as the human body the conclusion would be that every human /representing a cell/ is as valuable as the whole body. 

In our bodies we have bone cells, muscle cells, neurons and many others working for a common purpose but having completely different potential, functionality and purpose. 

Is a brain cell more valuable than a cell in the intestines? Is the liver storing fat for personal gain?

Looking at people who collect garbage or ride on the earliest bus to work in a giant factory it is easy to imagine  they are invisible and maybe even insignificant to life as a whole. 

But imagine no one coming to pick your garbage for a year.

Today as we look at news from across the globe its seems our human hearts are starting to beat for our fellow men in suffering much more than ever before. 

It is as if we are all connected by a human experience of life... We do not need an interpreter to understand the suffering of others when we see it.

Today many people cross seas and borders to reach a nation they find desirable. 

Germany is a very fascinating country in many ways. It is full of very curious and hard working people who try to put their heart into all they do. 

German punctuality can come as a surprise to many. 

A bus arrives at 7:24. 

People arrive on the bus stop at 7:20.

I wondered for a long time why do we need to be that punctual and the answer given to me was very simple. Not to waste each other's time. My time is respected and I am expected to appreciate other people's time.

There are other nations where public transport is plenty and on time and everywhere it is so for similar reasons. 

This is the difference between doing something with heart and just getting the job done.

It is striking to think that no education is given in the matters of heart... 

If we were to exclude every spice and salt from cooking we could still call it food.

If we do not add the spice of our heart and love to life we still can call it life. But what a difference is there between excellent cuisine and a pile of broken down protein bonds, vitamins, fat and carbohydrates.

In search of profit and keeping the economic development curve up we forget that money is not a goal but a symbol of what makes life worth living. 

It seems we really, and even desperately, need to look for a deeper meaning to the purpose of our life if we want to enjoy this journey... as well as make it enjoyable to others.

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Citizen Cinderella

Digg deeper for the meaning and purpose of life and you will start wondering why you feel like a "Cinderella" citizen in your own nation.

When owing taxes to the state we have to pay them.

If we are entitled to funding from the state have to apply for it, wait and be persistent otherwise it is simply not given.

Labor is taxed. Shopping is taxed. Property is taxed.

Our foster parents need our money to play "elite"...

Our state knows when we are born and have a birthday,

Our health situation,

When we turn 18.

When we get married.

When we die.

Has anyone received a greeting card from the government for his/her birthday?

It has collected enough of our money but entitled clans believe our money belongs to them and they belong on top.

At the same time they can not live without us because all money they have come from "the people".

Some times I look at the live of political, business and other celebrities and wonder why they never seem to have enough or enjoy what they have. They always hunger for more...

As we all give our faith and money to our government it stands in a symbolic position of our extended parent. Yet no one is willing and daring to see this side of our relation.

Would loving parents tax their children and calculate the money invested in them demanding return with interest?

Can loving parents exploit their children's labor, keep them illiterate and sell their interest for personal gain?

All of the above sound absurd to people who have family and children whom they sincerely love.

This is how we know we are Citizen Cinderella - person and a family without a true parental figure in our society.

All former and current system of government that considered this deep meaning of life have brought peace and progress.

All others brought fear, war, division, death and destruction.

Being aware of this helps know who we really are and what the things around us really stand for.

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Parental Management Culture

This looks like a funny or wrong combination of words. But let me explain as I see some deeper meaning behind...

We are taught to see ourselves as children, students, employees, citizens, voters, pensioners...

Despite of busily rushing to acquire knowledge, skills and career we always end up going to one and the same place every day - home.

What is a home? 

You may have a family and children or you may not. You may have a big house or a small one. To all of us though our home represents a place of peace and safety even if its in the middle of a war zone.

How strange a place is home?

If we ask ourselves what makes our home so special it will not be easy to find clear answers... Because they are not logical.

For those who were lucky to grow up in a family and experience the love and care of parents home is a feeling of being embraced and cared for, understood and forgiven but some times also punished.

Even for those who grew up without parents the care and kindness of people who stood in a symbolic parental figure position gave them a taste of what home feel like. Beyond that our common human nature longs for a home.

Who makes the home a home?

Our parents do. Their love and care for us, even though probably not perfect, was shaping our perception of love, life and values.

What many people conclude about society is that it is an extension of our family. What makes up the society around us is... other families.

I have been trying to imagine a place where we would all calm down and enjoy life more. It seems that only a parental management can allow such a place to exist.

In a society if our manager /kings, presidents, prime ministers/ have and display a parental culture society seems to become more balanced and everyone seems to have a place in the system. On the contrary if the managers take a more self centered managerial approach the division between classes becomes greater. Some seem to have rights while others have to loose them.

It seems not to matter if the system is called feudal, monarchic, democratic or socialist because if a wrong managerial approach is accepted social tension keeps growing until members of that society decide they can not take it any longer, brake the bonds and try our something else.

The deeper meaning behind history and the purpose of life seems to be our search for a home.

When a leader takes all power in a nation an interesting name is given to him - the father of the nation.

Queen Elizabeth is loved as the mother not only as a monarch.

It seems we are searching to identify a parental figure that would stand in the highest managerial position.

Why is that? In my opinion we want a world that is fair and kind and capable for forgiveness and a love that goes beyond our faults in the process of our maturation.

We generously forgive our own shortcomings and learn to live with them whilst easily judge others for theirs.

Parents are capable of forgiving the faults of their children through the understanding that they need to mature before they are able to fully control themselves and understand.

A loving parent can forgive and hope again and again investing love and guiding the child beyond physical and metal fatigue.

If the leaders of our societies were motivated by such Parental Management culture they would worry, not being able to sleep at night, that every coin of the tax money collected is spent in the most efficient and beneficial way for the well-being of the true share holders of the state - its citizens and their families.

Truly there is a deeper meaning behind the title every state employee collectively carries - pubic servant.

As parents are in position to serve the growing children so is the state as an extended family structure... no matter the label it carries - left, center or right.

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No straight lines... in life

Growing up as a child, though puberty and adolescence equilibrium meant very little to me. 

I guess it is natural as our cells divide and our body throttles and blooms into maturity.  

...Then we stop growing...

Today it is hard to say if the end of youth is a good or a bad thing as everyone seems to be clinging to it. 

Observing the range of personalities from young to old age I see a deeper meaning and purpose to life. 

Even the simple fact that there are young as well as old people seems to bring equilibrium to our human society. 

One day I wondered what equilibrium meant in the dynamics of our life? 

While driving on a highway about 8 years ago it suddenly saw another dimension to the matter. 

I always assumed I was driving straight from point A to point B but looking at my hand I saw it constantly moving left and right. This simple movement was revealing to me how my life has always been.

Aiming at a goal my mind is preoccupied focusing on the it and I do not notice that in reality by attempting to I always move from one extreme to another.

If I push myself my body collapses and I am forced to rest. If I rest I enjoy it to much and do not want to exercise...

Young and passionate we keep pushing forward until we are so out of life balance that exhausted we collapse. Then in denial of our former experience we push in the opposite direction until once again depleted of energy. 

Out of shear stubbornness some decide to stay at one extreme or the other trying desperately to prove a point to themselves and others... In the long run that does not bring them real satisfaction. 

After our violent and dramatic curves have subsided we find that what we are looking for is equilibrium in life. 

Some people seem to be close to it all their life and this usually comes from the respect and willing acceptance of youth and wisdom in their family and society. 

Other's discover that deeper meaning to the purpose of life through trial and error... over a long...er period of time...

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The carrot

The deeper meaning of life can appear unexpectedly from the simplest of things that surround us.

One sunny day and bright sunshine was lighting the dining room.

I sat on a chair in the dining room with my lunch looking at me.

A soup, salad and a sausage with mashed potatoes.

It looked simple and delicious but as I was gazed at it I became aware of a deeper meaning it carried.

The soup was made of carrots that were cared for by the hands of many people - planting, watering, picking, packing, transporting, displaying in a shop before ending up on my table. 

It felt good to be aware of how much efforts it took to have a single carrot on the table. 

We often are made to believe that manual work is undesirable but that one carrot made me feel grateful to all the hands that made it possible for it to be part of my soup.

Enjoying modern technology I sometimes stop myself and think how difficult life was all the centuries before ours and still is for many people today. Surrounded by our gadgets we forget or never even become aware of how lucky we are... 

I looked at the rest of my lunch and each ingredient had an adventure story to tell. 

All life had a purpose and a deeper meaning. The aroma was sweeter. The taste was richer. Taking a breath felt great.

Lunch was not just calories and nutrients on my way to the next task.

I felt connected and grateful...

I felt alive...

"National Identity" - most expensive brand...

Looking for deeper meaning and the purpose of life I wondered what the most expensive brand in the world was.

The largest corporations seemed the obvious answer but it was too simple and obvious an answer.

Do not read on until you find an answer to this question:

“The leaders of which organization have the most money to spend this year?”

The place most of our money gathers is shrouded in mystery.

Our National Budget is only occasionally mentioned every now and then but as a whole its details are covered in deep mist and layers of paperwork.

Trying to make sense of the numbers one can’t help but be amazed at how rich “we the people” are.

We often donate /or it is taken from us/ the larger % of what we make to the “common good” – our Nation.

Our politicians are like priests as the battle for our vote is a battle for our trust in who will “save” our lives. Even in totalitarian nations and monarchies once the trust of the people is lost the system collapses.

Our Federal Governments are sitting on Trillions of our currency acting like it knows best what we need. Yet there is not even one nation in the world where life is fully satisfactory…

The so called big International Corporations seem to be hooked on the mercy of the state for protection and special conditions allowing them to have advantage over other market players hooked to other National Brands.

Yet their lobbyists twist and drill laws locally and internationally to maximize profit and keep their shareholders happy… slowly becoming Financial Island Nations…

Looking deeper at our own 

National Brand 

it is very interesting what our tax money are spent for.

Our language, culture, security, history and many more are hammered together into the shape of “Our Identity”.

What actually comprises “Our Identity” can really break a human heart…

Often our founding national heroes became such after bloody battles where many lives were lost on both sides.

Our territory was stolen from preexisting nations and peoples who are still part of the new identity.

Our language evolved from other languages.

Our culture is a mixture of many cultures.

Our DNA traces back to Africa.

All religions are searching for the meaning of the human life that is common to all.

Because all of the above cost money our National Identity becomes a very pricey brand.

We write history books omitting facts then covering up the omission with other stories.

We insist the land belongs to us now ignoring claims by violated parties.

We desperately search for what makes our nation unique and worthy of carrying its current brand. 

But the problems of our brands grow as the world develops.

Transportation and communication shortens all distances making omissions more difficult to hide.

We now have many nationalities, cultures and religions living door to door in big cities.

We find ourselves needing to know 2 -3 foreign languages just to keep up with global job markets. At the same time technology point to a lesser need for human labor in the future.

All of this trends surround us making us incapable of visualizing our future but at we hold on to a National Passport...

We compare the military spending of national brands arguing that this money can find a better use.

The defense budget is only a fraction of our National Identity PR campaign.

If we had no enemies we will not need to defend. If we admit our faults and willingly share what we have there will be no enemies left to protect ourselves from.

How shall we spend the tax money we gather in the future?

Will we give up our expensive brands in exchange for an identity of one global human family?

A lot has to change inside of us and we have to find a deeper meaning to the purpose of our lives before we are able to embrace such level of freedom.

The freedom of the global /or even universal/ citizen... 

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