The purpose of life and its deeper meaning call us to ask a simple question:
How much love is enough?
Can I love my mother and father, brothers and sisters, friends, children... enough?
Love is very tricky to deal with because more can always be given.
To illustrate this I would like to share about a friend of mine.
I always thought stones were stones until I met him.
We had knows each other for a while and I was well aware of his fascination with geology /stones/ and fossils.
One day he invited me to a big geological exhibition. I accepted the invitation and though we will pass through the halls, buy some "stones" and leave. I was mistaken. He stopped and looked at every exhibit with incredible curiosity and admiration studying it for a long, long, long time.
To me everything we saw looked the same. All I needed was a glance to decide I have seen enough but out of respect for my friend I stayed and looked on wondering what is it that he sees in them.
The more I looked the more I realized that not only are all rocks and crystals looked different but the materials out of which they were made were all different as well.
I kept on looking and wondering how much is there to life that I do not pay attention to.
If I observe and study one person the way a scientist would a stone how much is there to discover?
A person is a universe of thoughts, feelings, dreams and, in general, presence.
So my mind naturally moved to the ones I love starting with the presence of my wife.
Do I know her well enough?
Do I love her enough?
Do I now my children, family members and friends well enough?
Do I study them as my friend would a stone?
At first I catch myself thinking I do... but if they were the prime object of my research would I think the same.
The answer quickly moved to a NO!
If I would research them there would be always more to discover, more to be inspired about and more reasons to be fascinated, like and love them.
Seeing their weaknesses and mistakes I would be in pain hoping they can be stronger, wiser and happier.
Seeing their strengths I would be proud, comforted and aware I can ask for help if needed.
Thinking this way I came to a simple conclusion.
One love partner is more than enough to explore and research in depth throughout life.
Our love changes as we move through our lives therefore the research is very exciting.
Love is one when we are just married and have all the time in the world for each other.
It is different when the first child is born and we give it our time and attention almost in panic until utterly exhausted day and night.
Our confidence is different when the next children come but as they grow there is less time and energy to spend for our spouse. Here many people conclude that love has diminished.
Strangely though it does not mean our love has become weaker. Instead it seems to have grown wider and deeper capable to love more with one heart.
Our ego is polished and shaped to become a member of a larger system that is chaotic and needs input of energy to keep it together. That is why the input of love from every member of the family is essential. A delicate balance between individual gravitational forces need to be established where everyone can be free enough yet bound by the force of love.
Who is the center of this gravitational pull?
The love of the parents is at the core. The love the mother and father share pulls the family together. The love of the grandparents keep the clan together.
Therefor in terms of marriage one partner for life is more than enough if we are on the quest of discovering true love in its entirety of scope and depth.
Could there be a deeper meaning to the purpose of life than this?
Is there a higher goal than to love and be loved?
Money seem to be our goal that gives us comfort but they seem to never be enough no matter how much we have.
Contrary to money when love is present we seem to lack nothing, and paradoxically, always find what to give even if we have nothing.
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